In the age of social media, we are constantly being reminded to “Live Your Best Life!”
In fact, I think we are more conscientious about what is happening around us from day to day, whether it is in the news, or on a social media feed. With one click, we can learn what is happening all the way in China, and we also know what our best friend is eating for breakfast. How amazing is it to be flooded with information at the tips of our fingers and be able develop such an awareness of how we live our lives! But have you ever thought how that pace of processing information can potentially cause us to miss out on some of the most important things? I have to really sift through what I consume daily because I am trying to do my best to live with intention and create thoughtful memories with my family. I think I developed that quality from my Dad—who was a constant storyteller. He loved to travel with us as a family and sharing his perspectives allowed me to see life through a different lense. He loved talking about art, history, religion and even politics. So you can say that over time, I sort of inherited the ability to record what I feel in my heart and capture vivid pictures in my mind—with the ability to share those experiences with the most careful detail.
Because Living Your Best Life to me means that you are challenged to extract the lessons that life is teaching you–through each experience, both good and bad–and some sad. A few years ago, my sister and lifelong companion—passed away. Her passing was sudden—and it has been difficult to process. On an occasion, I experience a deep sadness merely at the thought of her. Fortunately, as the days pass, I have learned to cope with her loss by remembering. We had the most amazing memories because I grew up sharing a room with her, laughing into the night talking and sharing stories. We often recorded improvised soap operas with my father’s large VHS camera. I can still hear her random laughs of joy when she would see something funny! Those memories make me happy!
For Mexicans/Latinos—I think part of coping with death culturally and historically, has been through the practice of remembering our loved ones through a season called Dia de los Muertos.
For many families, it is an important season to remember those who have passed from this life. Traditionally, families set up a beautiful altar in dedication to those loved ones with Mexican Marigolds placed throughout, including some personal possessions or items that they loved while they were alive. The most significant tradition is the preparation of a special meal that they once enjoyed. What a beautiful way to honor those who are no longer with us. It not only provides us with peace, but also gives us a sense of connection to those who impacted our lives so deeply.
I know that death is a part of life, but I have often asked myself–why do we wait to honor our loved ones in death–when we can so in life! For that reason, I have made an explicit effort to enjoy each moment I have with my mom and my Abuela. I love seeing her water her plants in her garden, or spending time cooking and eating together. I have been truly gifted with the opportunity to learn from her, and laugh together–and to share those experiences with everyone.
One of her favorite things to do is grocery shop! I am not sure why, but I think it is just one of those funny and unique things that make her so special. Recently, we went to Vallarta Supermarkets, to walk the aisles and shop as she prepares for Dia de Los Muertos. My Abuela is like a kid in a candy store–her eyes brighten as she walks through the aisles. My Abuela loves the fresh selection of Pan de Muerto from the Panaderia section. She particularly enjoys the fresh fruit and vegetables from the produce section. She carefully picks through the ears of corn, looking for just the perfect piece for my Abuelo. As she passes la Floreria, she stops and gazes as the
selection of flowers, and leans forward and picks the perfect bouquet of Marigolds to add the final touch. She is preparing a small altar at her home, as she does every year in dedication to his life and the years they spent together. Perhaps, it is her way of coping with the loss of Abuelo since his passing almost 17 years ago.
Later, we will arrive home, unpack the bags of groceries from the car, and settle in. With no words, and only a deep determination in her eyes, my Abuela pulls out that special elote and bright marigolds that she found at Vallarta Supermarkets, and slowly walks to the living room. With a steady pace, she moves towards the corner of the living room where she has placed a framed picture of my Abuelo–and with the most delicate movement, care and consideration, she gently places the plate with the single ear of corn before the framed picture.
There are some things that my Abuela has taught me with words, and other things, that she has taught me with her actions. It does not matter how elaborate the altar, or how simple the gesture in one’s celebration–but rather, it is at the core—about keeping someone alive in our hearts. I know that deep down, My Abuela does miss my Abuelo. And in the season of remembrance, such as Dia de Los Muertos, the altar represents resilience to live with purpose, even despite the loss of those we have loved, because it is a part of life. She has taught me that to live–is to honor those who are no longer with us–by truly Living our best life!
Today, as I think about those special people we have lost in our lives, I personally celebrate my sister. I know that one day we will meet again. My heart tells me that one day I will be able to hug her again and tell her how much I have missed her. Until then, I will continue to live with the intent to honor her with my life and to place upon the altar of my heart–Everything I do…in dedication to her.
We remember you today Eli.
We remember you today Tio Jose.
We remember you today Abuelo.
Thank you Vallarta Supermarkets for sponsoring this conversation–and for accommodating us culturally and as a community–by having everything we need to celebrate Dia de Los Muertos!
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My first born, Jezreel graduates from high school today. So many feelings and flashes of moment come in and out. And as those feelings go from happiness to sadness and then to feeling orgullosa, I can’t help to think how blessed I have been to have been granted the ability to work from home and be able to be part of every stage of both of my children’s lives.
Parenting is not an easy task and as you have heard, it takes a village…and it doesn’t end at High School graduation. That is actually the beginning of a whole new set of life challenges. Thank you to all who have help me, Jezreel and the rest of my little family along the way.
Both my mom and Abuela have crazy stories about how they were named. I had always heard everyone call my Abuela Eva, even my Abuelo. It wasn’t until she was trying to get her residency that she found out that Eva wasn’t her real name. A prerequisite to obtain her residency was to provide a birth certificate however, she did not have one. So she went to La Presidencia of her town to request it. After a lengthy search for this crucial document, they were unable find her birth certificate. She went home frustrated and told everyone what had happened when suddenly her father disclosed that he never registered her as Eva. Her father stated that despite her mother wanting to name her Eva, he defiantly registered her as Maria. According to the story, my Abuela’s father wanted a daughter named EVA. AY DIO MIO! She went back to La Presidencia, and processed a new request with the name MARIA and successfully obtained her birth certificate. To this day, everyone close to her knows her as Eva. Joking she claims that she was never married to my Abuelo because the marriage certificate says Eva–and her real name is Maria. LOL







All of my trips to Mexico consisted on how many things we could bring back to the states. Todos tenian encargos and we all wanted a nice stash of goods that would last us for a few months. We always brought back items we couldn’t easily get here. Whatever it took to bring candy, chips, pottery, home decor and even chorizo hidden in our shoes (true story). I know weird and gross, right? Don’t try to act like you didn’t hide a parrot or two under your armpit when crossing the border by car. LOL Anyway, Pinole was another thing we always brought back. “Pinole” is maiz that is toasted and ground very finely with cinnamon and some sugar.
My mother and Abuela have been raving about their experience at
Needless to say, my expectations were pretty high. So upon our arrival, I looked around and made some initial observations. The first thing I noticed when I walked into the store were the employees working on the floor. They were very professional and friendly. It seemed that they were always on the move making sure everything was in order and the store shelves were fully stocked. My mom headed straight for the fresh produce because she was anxious to share her own preferences regarding the wide selections of fresh fruits and vegetables. She was telling me that she loves that ALDI USA carries so many organic products and that they do not carry produce that contain artificial colors, MSG’s, or trans-fats. When Hilda Gabriela arrived, I was already full of enthusiasm to know more! I cannot believe the large selection at such low prices. For example, the mangos were priced .39 cents that day and they did not even have a limit on the amount you could purchase!!! Hilda Gabriela shared that it is made possible because ALDI USA works together with local growers and suppliers in order to provide the freshest and highest quality products with the lowest prices.
With the holidays quickly approaching, as well as the anticipation of having large family gatherings, I am always contemplating the need to buy large amounts of food. I just kept thinking about how as Latinos we prepare for the holiday season by cooking seasonal recipes such as tamales. Finding fresh ingredients is an essential part of that preparation. It was great to stroll through the aisles to find a wide variety of dried chiles. As if that was not enough, they had las ollas to cook the tamales in the Home Goods section of the store! Y despues de cocinar esos ricos tamales, we know the dreaded task of cleaning has to take place. It is a good thing ALDI carries our favorite cleaning items–everything from Fabuloso to earth friendly cleaning products.



















Every Autumn, my Abuelo would pull out a heavy brown jacket. It seemed like each year, he had a different heavy jacket. I have no idea where he would get them, but I thought they were so cool. He was so original in his attire (OG) that when he would wake up, he would walk outside on those brisk fall mornings with coffee in hand and his brown coat pulled over his shoulders. He would look at me, nod a good morning, and walked away to begin his day.